Well, life hits you hard (sometimes, maybe). And there’s no denying that.
One moment, everything feels fine. The next, it’s gone. The people, the plans, the things you thought would always be there—stripped away in an instant.
And in that aftermath, you expect pain, chaos, maybe even anger.
But what you get instead? A strange, unsettling stillness.
You don’t deserve it, sweety.
Not bitterness. Not apathy. Just… clarity.
You deserve clarity.
But clarity only comes when you’re ready to see (It’s all about you).
It happens when you’re too tired to fight more. You’re too exhausted to explain. When you’re not in the mood to grasp that air. When you’re too numb to keep justifying what was never meant for you.
It comes when the illusions start to crack.
When you stop convincing yourself that the past could’ve gone any other way.
… and it never arrives with fireworks.
Whatever it is, you should get to the point that;
➝ You never lacked worth. You only lacked the right people, the right places, the right perspective.
➝You didn’t deserve that pain. But you do deserve the growth that comes after.
➝You weren’t abandoned. You were being redirected.
And I get it—this truth doesn’t feel like relief. Not at first, to be specific here. It feels empty—like the world lost its color.
See, we think healing means feeling good again. That it’s supposed to be bright and warm.
But real healing?
It’s about waking up.
But maybe… just maybe… that’s the whole point.
It’s about seeing life for what it is, not what you once wished it would be. The illusion fades. The noise quiets. And suddenly, everything feels… smaller. Less urgent. Less consuming.
People, things, even the dreams you once swore you couldn’t live without—they all become just that. Things. 🤷🏻♀️ Not anchors. Not lifelines. Just… passing waves.
Passing something that is just something, not everything.
And here’s the part no one tells you: that clarity?
It’s your way out. It’s not the end. It’s the door.
But to get there, you have to stop fighting.
Stop replaying what could have happened.
Stop bottling it all up.
It happened. It just happened. It really happened.
Note it down. IT HAPPENED.
And now? You walk forward. Not by force, not by running. Just by allowing IT to settle in.
Just stop forcing things. Stop chasing people.
People are here, living their own life. Doing their own things. They are carrying their own weight. Even if they are not. You’re no one to carry that. You’re no one to feel the weight of their mind, their silly minds, their perspectives, their insecurities, their baggage, their choices … and whatever. You’re not here to be their emotional storage unit. You are YOU and You have your own life. You’re answerable about your life in front Allah. You’re answer of what you did to what he gave you (mind that). What will you say? Just carried weight? I just carried weight that wasn’t mine? And just because of that, I lost precious moments to be happy, to learn new things, to explore Your world, to have quite moments with you?
Stop clinging to the past, to the plans, to the “what ifs.”
Stop questioning. Learn to trust the process. Let IT unfold in its own way.
Because healing isn’t about becoming indifferent. It’s about understanding that some things were never meant to stay. … and that’s life.
Let go. Become free.
Not because you don’t care.
Not because you’re bitter.
But because you were “never meant to stay stuck”.
Because peace begins the moment you stop gripping so tightly… and just let life flow.
If you’re a reader (Like me), following are the parts of the Books You Should Read.
- (English) The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga
- (Urdu) Mai Anmol by Nemrah Ahmed
- (Urdu) Zaaviya by Ashfaaq Ahmed
- (Urdu) Peer-E-Kamil by Umera Ahmed